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How to
Improve Self-Confidence!
Fear of losing a friend or
loved one
How to deal with the fear of losing someone
Jennifer woke up in a sweat, with the
memories of last night's dream still fresh and surreal. She was having those
darned nightmares again. But those nightmares could not have been mere
nightmares because they were haunting her even during her waking hours.
This one was like all the other dreams where
she was running after a familiar person who would later on fall from a deep
ravine. And in all dreams, she was the one hero who was doing everything to
save the same person from falling. The funny thing is, she could not see his
face.
Psychologists would interpret Jennifer's
dream as something which speaks of her inner fears in life. One such fear which
came out in the open was her fear of losing people near to her, people whom she
loves dearly.
The fear of losing someone you love is normal
for most people. This stems from your fear of being alone in this world and
your fear of not being able to bear the thought of being the one who was left
behind.
Thinking about the possibility of losing
someone you love is devastating, not to mention hurtful. You may have invested
too much of your time and feelings for that person and so just the thought of
losing that person would leave you in a state of panic.
There are different categories of people with
whom a person can have deep affections. The fear of losing any one of these
people can be traumatic for a person, especially if he or she has just
experienced a heavy loss, like divorce or death of a loved one.
A person can fear losing his spouse, his
parents, his children, his relatives, his friends, or any person who is close to
his heart. This fear can be caused or influenced by several factors such as:
1. Divorce or separation - A person who
recently went through divorce or separation proceedings can easily be haunted by
separation anxiety due to the stress accompanied by the divorce process. It is
not easy for a person to live with a spouse for a period of time and to separate
with that person. Divorce proceedings are usually hostile and confrontational
so such proceedings will always leave a bad taste in the mouth. In the same
manner, a person who is about to undergo a divorce or separation will also be
subjected to stress.
2. Empty nest - A fulltime mother can easily
feel depressed when she realizes her children are growing up and are slowly
becoming independent. This anxiety stems from the thought that for several
years, she was needed by her children and now that they can manage on their own,
then she will no longer be needed and useful. A mother who experienced this
fear of losing her children should try to immerse herself back into society by
finding a business or a useful hobby that will keep her occupied. The feeling
of uselessness is natural but you have to find a way to combat this fear by
making yourself useful in some other ways. Also, why not look at the situation
in another way? Why not accept the fact that you have reared your children so
well and that you have prepared them to live their own lives? And now, it is
time for them to try to walk alone without mommy's help.
3. Death in the family - A death in the
family or in your circle of friends will always make a person realize how
fleeting life can be. This realization will manifest itself into the fear of
losing someone you love due to illness or sudden death. Death is inevitable and
it would do you good to make time for people you love. If you are already
spending enough time with them, then you can always improve the quality of time
you spend with your loved ones.
The fear of losing a loved one is always in
existence. One can never get away from this fear because there are situations
that will make a person think of the possibility of being separated from the
people they love. But the possibility of losing someone is one of life's facts
and no one can prevent his from happening.
However, one can always soften the blow of
being left behind by preparing for such an eventuality.
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